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Deep Tissue Massage for Grief

What is grief? Exactly. And how can deep tissue massage help grief?

Okay, for a start, there is no exact answer here because the one thing you can be certain of when you’re grieving is that it will be a different experience for everyone. That said, there are some common factors that means a deep tissue massage can help you cope with your grief.

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Questions & Answers


Why do people experience grief in different ways?

There are many reasons why people experience grief in different ways. They can include your personality type. People naturally deal with stresses in different ways, grief is no different. If your health is poor, then you’ll feel less strong than someone who is full of life and energy. Their body will have a different physical response to the emotional pain. This also links to lifestyle. For instance, someone who gyms every day may increase the amount of workouts, v’s someone who meditates may spend more time isolated and with their own thoughts.

Culture and family background as well as life experiences are also other reasons why grief affects and people deal with their bereavement differently.


What is a deep tissue massage for grief?

When you’re grieving your muscles will tighten and then over time these become locked into place without you even realising what’s happening. You’ll just suddenly find you’re more stiff than normal. This can have a detrimental effect on your health and wellbeing.

This tightening up happens because our muscles are sticky, they’re like a ball of wool, each strand of which sticks together. So, as you grieve your posture tightens and your move less. This allows more time for your muscles to become locked into position and very often it’s only possible to relieve these through some deep massage therapy work. This treatment endeavours to relieve these physical symptoms and discomfort allowing your body to become more free.


Why is a massage for grief important?

Mental health professionals diagnose complicated grief, or Prolonged Grief Disorder (PGD) when normal grief/ bereavement processes become “stuck” in that they persist for six months +.

Having a massage for grief will help you in healing from some of the symptoms associated with PGD, including, but not limited to:
*Pain – especially of the neck, head and lower back pain
*Anxiety and/ or gastrointestinal disorders
*Chest pain or breathing difficulties including palpitations

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Grief is a normal response to sorrow

It’s often a confusion emotion that stems from losing someone or something important to you. Grief is a typical reaction to death, divorce, losing your job, moving away from family and friends or even the loss of your health, perhaps as a result of being ill. Grief has many manifestations. When people think of grief, they will often focus on an emotional response to the loss, crying and such like. However, grief also has physical, cognitive, behavioural, social and philosophical dimensions.

There is no set time that determines how long grief lasts for. Getting through bereavement is more about learning to live with the loss you have experienced. This will help you to come out of the other side of your grief.

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Not all grief is the same

The time you spend grieving depends on your relationship with the person or thing lost, and how prepared you were for the loss. For some, grief lasts several months – while grieving may take years for others.

Immediately following a death or loss, many people experience feelings of emptiness and numbness – similar to shock. Physically, problems such as trembling, nausea, difficulty breathing and a racing heart are common during the early stages of grief, along with muscle weakness, dry mouth, lack of appetite and insomnia. However, prolonged, unresolved grief can have many additional physical manifestations and this is how a massage for grief can help.


Help your mind to heal

Grief massage therapy also helps your mind to heal. When we don’t move around so much, our blood flow becomes restricted to some areas of our body. Our lymphatic system works the same. When you’re grieving you don’t feel like getting up and doing a run, even though everyone says that exercise is a great way to heal.

A massage has this similar effect on the way your system works. The movement allows our body to distribute the ‘nutrients’ such as blood and oxygen, to the parts of our body that needs them in order to function better. When our system is working optimally, our brain (and ultimately our broken heart) can heal faster.

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What happens during the deep tissue massage for grief?

We’ll begin by warming up your muscles after which we’ll apply pressure to the areas that are tight. This could be one localised area, e.g. back, neck and shoulders, or if you decide to take longer than an hour, then we will extend this to cover more of your body.

Being a deep massage, this may involve firm pressure from our arms or elbows to break down sticky muscle fibres. We’re not going to lie, this can get tender, but it’s a good kind of pain, where you feel the tension floating away as we work. Afterwords, people will often say they feel ‘free’ and ‘light’ like a ‘weight has been lifted.’

This type of massage can be done on any area of your body to release knotted, fibrous muscles into the epitome of suppleness and elasticity.

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If you would like to book a deep tissue massage for grief, then feel free to book online. Alternatively, if you have questions, then please, text us in the first instance on 07941 668456 and we’ll come back to you as soon as we’re free.

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I have always wanted to try reflexology but usually opted for massage instead. However, now I've experienced two... reflexology sessions with Karen, I think I'm a convert! Both sessions have left me feeling calm, restored and well rested. I also had to change the time of my first session and Karen reponded really quickly and was happy to adjust it. I'm really happy with the service and am definitely going to be a new regular more
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I’ve always been skeptical of massages and whether I’m receiving one that’s beneficial for my body as well as worth the... money. I have to say I wish I could give more than 5 stars because Essential Feeling is hands down one of the best massage treatments I have received as well as worth the money. Being currently pregnant too, I was worried that I would be in more pain after the massage however Charlton ensured that my deep tissue massage was tailored to my needs as well as helped with any stiffness and back pain I was experiencing. Karen was also super helpful during my reflexology massage, ensuring that I was relaxed and bought a lot of the swelling in my feet down. My mother also had a deep tissue massage from Charlton who again tailored it to her needs as she has a bad lower back as well as a lovely reflexology massage from Karen. Me and my mum felt that both massage therapists are very professional and solely cater to the needs of the client. They are both also very knowledgeable in the massages they deliver as well as any issues a person has individually with their body. Absolutely wonderful service and wonderful massages! Will definitely be making a return!read more
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